It can be like trying to walk a tightrope while avoiding a pit full of hungry alligators. You are nervous and excited while trying to avoid falling flat on your faces. You’re in for a wild ride. But it can be exciting if you handle it well. Read more now on Understanding Game & Leverage.
Let’s talk preparation. Would you pack the essentials if you were going on a trip? You’d never do that! Same goes for dating. Consider what you will wear, where and what you will talk about. Planning is important.
It is important to choose the right place. You might feel stiff in a restaurant or a noisy bar. You want to find a place that is relaxed, but still lively. A cozy cafe or casual restaurant works well.
Dress as if you were meeting someone important, but do not overdo it. You don’t want spend the night tugging on your collar or adjusting skirt. Think smart-casual. A nice shirt and jeans can be the perfect combination.
Let’s get started with some conversation starters. Avoid the job interview vibes. No one wants to be interrogated under a lamp. Ask open-ended or funny questions to spark a conversation. What’s the strangest thing you’ve eaten? This can result in some hilarious exchanges.
Listening can be as important as speaking, if not more. Show genuine interest in the stories and opinions of others. Make them feel heard by nodding along and laughing at their jokes, even if they are dad jokes.
Body language speaks volumes too. It shows that you are interested when you lean in a little to listen. Keep eye contact, but do not stare them down as if you were in a stare-down with a cat.
What about humor? Here, humor is your best friend! You can break the ice with a well-timed joke, or a playful tease. Keep it lighthearted. No need to perform stand-up routines.
Have you ever thought about the post-date protocol? Sending a thank-you message to your date is a simple but often forgotten way to follow up. Mention something you discussed or did together and express how much you enjoyed their company.
We need to face rejection in the head because, let’s be honest: it happens to everyone sooner than later. Don’t let it affect you or your self-confidence. It’s okay if chemistry isn’t right.
Second dates are more difficult than the first because of expectations that have risen since initial nerves (butterflies still flying around) have subsided. Plan something low-pressure but fun, like mini-golf or visiting an exhibit. You’ll be able to keep the momentum going if you encounter a conversation lull again.